What do Japanese women want?
In relation to our last post on Japanese movie, “My Darling is a Foreigner”, supporting cross-cultural relationships, we thought about a topic that generally stirs interest worldwide — Japanese women and what they look for in men. Is it the usual suspects like wisdom? Charisma? Looks? Family background? Money?
Apparently the criteria is simple — a foreigner. A growing number of Japanese women are giving up on their male counterparts, and believe that looking for love abroad will bring them the qualities in a partner that seem rare at home in Japan. Their ideal man is often an American or European, a man appreciative of a wife’s career and more of a partner when it comes to the daily brunt of life.
“They treat you like equals, and they don’t hesitate to express mutual feelings of respect – I think Western men are more adept [at such things] than Japanese men,” says the 36-year-old Ms. Mizuguchi, who works at a top trading firm. “They don’t act like women are maids – I think they view women as individuals.”
So how do you go about making friends with Japanese women?
Knowing how polite and reserved Japanese women are, your friend-making approach has to be somewhat calculated. You’ll definitely want to take it slow and heed the following advice:
- Try not to ‘come on’ to a Japanese woman because that is not how her mind is conditioned. You have to almost do it without doing it, meaning that you have to show your interest but still leave the ball in the woman’s court. The easiest trick is to position yourself as a serious student of Japanese art/culture/language/music/food or anything else that she is interested in. The language card seems to work all the time, though.
- Make sure that you praise her beauty. Japanese society does not allow for open praise and when non-Japanese men do it, it is so refreshing and unexpected that they really appreciate the praise.
- Be patient. Some of these women may actually be speaking to a non-Japanese for the first time in their lives. An aggressive approach may scare them since Japanese men are more subtle in their approach. While showing your genuine interest in her, give her some time to decide to take the next step.
What do you think? Do you agree that Japanese women are most interested in American and European men? What do you think of the approach we’ve suggested? Have your say in the comments below!
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Well, i’m very agree within this! Because i wanna have a asian-girlfriend too. Specially from Japan! I like the culture, the country, the people there. In my Eyes the japanese women are much more prettier than our girls here in Austria.
I enjoy it that japanese women are interessted in us.
So i have a bit hope to meet some japanese-girls…maybe for relationship? :)
Japanese woman are complicated. The always want that a man leads them.
Its fine for a while, but I need also input and sometimes directions without to lead. So I took a brazilian, because the japanese woman reminded me also on Kate Perrys song: youre hot than your cold your up and your down..and so on…
They are nice to talk with, because they are also well travelled and have the $$$ and education. In bed they are ok, for a long time relationship they are not for me.
What utter bull. Most Japanese women arent interested in foreigners unless he speaks Japanese and or has something they need. Ok, maybe they ll use a young one for a one night stand, and then ignore him the next day like shit (been there, done that).
Now when I say “speak Japanese” this also entails acting like a Japanese in behavior, which is not easy to do for long. (Think a happy go lucky clown).
Problem now is that as Tokyo’s economy sinks to Bangkok levels, most of the women just want money to survive.
Case in point, a 24 yr old hooker I met (just met) the other day, came from Hokkaido (northern island) flooding into Tokyo to make money money money.
On the other hand, if you re just talking about gaijin hunters or the ones who are outside Japan, then of course, yeah, they want a foreigner so they can live outside Japan.